Begin, the Lag Wars Have (#21839)

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you take a tiny little two year LOA and this happens
this PR hits some large lag culprits:
- UpdateOverlays() getting spammed by human/update_icon. This was 0.85%
of server CPU time during the event. Doesn't sound like a whole lot but
it's insane. 99% of it was caused by sloppy duplicate calls of
update_icon in set_dir (as well as update icon itself!). Refactored to
stop that
- Makes Follow menu update manually, which cuts down on the 2.8 million
REF() calls it made during the event. This was ~1% of CPU time including
ui_data as well.
- Gets rid of a bunch of random runtimes and some lighting-related
harddels.
- NanoUIs now clean themselves up when their owner qdels rather than
forcing the owner to do REF(src) and close all matching UIs. saves us
~0.1% server cpu time! wowza!

code/modules/shuttles/shuttle_console.dm

@@ -170,6 +170,7 @@
 		"can_force" = shuttle.can_force(),
 		"can_rename_ship" = can_rename_ship,
 		"ship_name" = shuttle.name,
+		"current_location" = shuttle.get_location_name(),
 	)
 
 /obj/machinery/computer/shuttle_control/ui_act(action, params)